Here is quick recap of what I wrote in Part 1. Basically we need these phrases because we don’t feel beautiful, and one reason for that is because we measure ourselves by the world’s standards instead of how God created us. 1 John 5:21 says, “Dear children, keep away from anything that might take God’s place in your hearts (keep yourselves from idols).”
The Merriam-Webster dictionary defines an idol as “an object of extreme devotion," and a statistic from The Dove Campaign says that "72% of girls feel tremendous pressure to be beautiful." From what I see all around me I think it is safe to say that beauty has become to many women an idol. So the problem with phrases like “Beauty is more than skin deep” and “You’re beautiful just the way you are” is that they put all our focus on being beautiful.
The media tells us that in order to feel good about ourselves we need to weigh a certain amount, have a boyfriend or just flings and one night stands, live a certain lifestyle, have a lot of money and the list goes on.
In order to get those things we have to look a certain way. It is this constant cycle, we try and fail, try again and fail again. Doesn’t it get tiring? We try so hard to look pretty or attractive in order to gain popularity and get noticed, but then when it doesn’t work we try something else. All this does is leave us feeling down and insecure.
That is what the world does, and that is all it will ever do because it is fallen and like it says in 1 John 5:17b, “The whole world lies in the power of the evil one.”
All Satan wants to do is keep us from realizing and believing the truth about our beauty because then he will lose his power.
The truth is, beauty is not the ultimate goal.
What happens when we idolize beauty is we become inward focused and think too much about ourselves instead of others because we are worried about our image. This in turn actually makes us unattractive, especially on the inside, because we are so consumed with ourselves. You probably can think of at least one person who you really don’t like being around because all they think about is themselves. These are people who have placed self-image and beauty on a pedestal.
What happens when we realize that beauty is not the ultimate goal? Well, we realize that our relationship with God is more important and that the ultimate goal is to bring Him, not ourselves, glory. “So, whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do, do all to the glory of God.” 1 Corinthians 10:31
When we live our lives for God we become women whose focus is not on ourselves, but on loving God and loving others. When this happens we will truly become beautiful because we are doing what we were made to do—worship God.