In light of what day it is, thought I should write a little of my perspective on Valentine’s Day. First off, for all you single people, yes you are single, but you are not alone in your singleness, so quit using the phrase “forever alone” because you are not the only one who is single on Valentine’s Day. We all have friends who are single, and if you happen to not have any single friends, you need to find some new friends.
Ok, back to what I actually want to say. Valentine’s Day isn’t in itself a bad day. I’m all about having a day to show people some extra love. I just don’t like how it, in turn, makes so many people who don’t have a special someone feel.
So if you happen to be one of the millions of people who suffer from “Forever Alone” syndrome, especially on Valentine’s Day, I want to encourage you today.
Don't worry, I am not going to go on a rant about making Jesus your boyfriend. However, I do want to remind you that Jesus is our first love.
All throughout the Bible we find examples of God’s love for us:
“This is how we know what love is: Jesus Christ laid down his life for us.” 1 John 3:16
“We love because He first loved us.” 1 John 4:19
“But God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us.” Romans 5:8
“That you, being rooted and grounded in love, 18 may be able to comprehend with all the saints what is the breadth and length and height and depth, 19 and to know the love of Christ which surpasses knowledge, that you may be filled up to all the fullness of God” Ephesians 3:17-19
His love is perfect, everlasting, unconditional, passionate, gentle, and also jealous.
I want to focus on the last thing I mentioned there. God is a jealous God, but it is not the kind of jealousy you and I feel. His jealousy is a righteous jealousy.
It says in Exodus 20:3-6, “You shall have no other gods before Me.4 You shall not make for yourself an idol, or any likeness of what is in heaven above or on the earth beneath or in the water under the earth. 5 You shall not worship them or serve them; for I, the Lord your God, am a jealous God, visiting the iniquity of the fathers on the children, on the third and the fourth generations of those who hate Me, 6 but showing loving kindness to thousands, to those who love Me and keep My commandments.”
At first glance this seems harsh, but God has a right to be jealous. He is the most Supreme Being, the God who created the world and each one of us. He has a right to be jealous when we choose others things over Him. God says, do not make any idols or have any other gods above him, but I think that many times we place relationships on a pedestal. We make finding “the love of our life” an idol.
So as you see, Valentine’s Day has good intentions, but we have turned it into a day to pursue love with another person, and place that above pursuing God.
Don’t get me wrong, loving people is what God has called us to, and I am not saying that everyone who is in a relationship is making that person an idol. I have witnessed in many cases though, that people whether they are dating, engaged, or single; tend to put the pursuit of a relationship with someone above their pursuit of God.
We cannot fill the longing in our heart and desire for love with any relationship, only God can do that, and he promises to fill us up to all the fullness of Himself. (Eph. 3:19, paraphrased) Doesn’t that sound so much better? He is jealous because he sees that we long to be filled with love, but we look for it in all the wrong places.
God simply longs for us to turn to him and let him fill us with his love.
So let’s stop saying “Forever Alone” and change it to “Forever Loved” because God has loved us since the beginning of time, and will continue to love us for all of eternity. It says in 1 John 4:8, that “God is love”. Who could ask for a better valentine than that?